Academy for Couples Therapists Blog
Welcome to the Academy for Couples Therapists Blog
This blog is for therapists who want to improve their work with couples
I decided to start a blog for several reasons:
- The world needs couples therapists now more than ever! I want to contribute to increasing the effectiveness of therapists who work with couples.
- One size does not fit all. When it comes to couples therapy we simply cannot apply the same model for all couples.
- Contemporary couples distress is a public health issue. I want to contribute, through the training of effective couples therapists, to the betterment of society.
In this blog you will find:
- Articles, tools designed to help couples therapists who want to improve their work with couples.
- Clinical vignettes. The names mentioned on the vignettes are clinical case composites without any information that could identify a couple.
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If you have any questions about the blogs or any other material on this website, feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Couples, gender and power: Is it possible to create an egaliatarian relationship?
Almost all couples say they want an equal relationship, but If I ask them what that means for them, the answers are often vague. How can an equal relationship be defined? How do couples know equality when they experience it? Evidence is mounting that couples that are...
Helping Couples Uncouple Well - Part II
How Can Couples Therapists Help During Separation or Divorce? In part I of Helping Couples Uncouple Well, I described how couples can design their future with creativity and an open mind. I described separation agreements, nesting agreements, and open relationships....
Helping couples uncouple well
Designing the future with creativity and an open mind Part 1 When it comes to uncoupling, one size does not fit all. We didn’t learn this in grad school. We got some training in doing couples therapy, but most likely, we didn’t learn much about how to help couples...
Working with sexual desire discrepancy
The information I use in this blog has been inspired by the work of Martha Kauppi, Marty Klein, Emily Nagoski and Barry McCarthy. There comes a point in the treatment with a couple, when we have to start talking about sex. Talking about sexual issues is not the...
Do you ever wish a couple didn't show up for a session?
If you work with couples, I’m sure you’ve experienced this; You wish that a couple you are working with didn’t come back for treatment or didn’t show up for a session. You know which couples I am talking about. They don’t do their homework. They cancel at the last...
When couples are in crisis
This was a bad week. About half of the couples I am seeing, are going through a severe crisis. And that has an effect on my clinical self-esteem: I feel incompetent. Here is a sample of my self-talk after a session with certain couples in crisis this week: “I should...
In what ways is a romantic relationship like a business?
In what ways is a romantic relationship like a business? A relationship is a fragile emotional bond. Things can go wrong at any time, and wreck the bond for good. But in addition to an emotional bond, a long term committed relationship is also a business-like bond....
Healing Old Hurts - Part II
In a previous post, I discussed the benefits of helping couples write an impact statement as the first step in the process of apology. In this post, I want to spell out the steps for a good apology.
Want to Help Emotionally Dysregulated Couples During a Session?
Couples get emotionally dysregulated in a session fairly often. Couples therapists who work with dysregulated couples can lose empathy and can become dysregulated themselves.
How do you help a couple heal from old hurts?
For couples who have been together for a long time, there is no shortage of blame to go around on both sides. The problem is that most partners believe-erroneously- that their mates are more to blame than themselves. If you’ve been working with a couple for a...